Why you need to go to therapy, and why you probably can’t

In theory, every single person would benefit from regular therapy. Just like you get an annual physical to check your blood work for issues you can't see, like cholesterol, blood sugar, inflammation, and more, a regular check-in with a therapist can help you maintain healthy levels of psychological self care. When I meet with my … Continue reading Why you need to go to therapy, and why you probably can’t

A breakup doesn’t mean you failed

When you're deeply committed to someone, the end of that relationship can be devastating. Whether it's a romantic relationship, friendship, or even removing a family member from your life -- breaking up is hard. But it doesn't mean you've failed at anything. I reject the notion that a relationship that doesn't last a lifetime is … Continue reading A breakup doesn’t mean you failed

The healing power of non-monogamy

In March 2018 I left an abusive marriage and entered into a new phase of life: the casually slutty phase. My dating app profile included the line, “I am dedicating 2018 to non-monogamous exploration.” I had my first one time hookups, met my first friend with benefits, and soon met my first long-term partner after … Continue reading The healing power of non-monogamy

How to Simplify Your Life Right Now (And Make Room For What Matters Most)

Life can get overwhelming at times. We all have our own struggles that we deal with on a daily basis. We tend to waste a lot of stress and energy on things that don’t really matter.  When you lose sight of what’s truly important, life can feel more hectic than it needs to be. Once … Continue reading How to Simplify Your Life Right Now (And Make Room For What Matters Most)

Comfort in my own skin

Losing weight used to be the most important thing in my life. Year after year, it was my resolution each January. And year after year, despite my weight, I still never felt like I had succeeded. If I gained, I had obviously failed. If I maintained, I had not done enough. If I lost, I … Continue reading Comfort in my own skin

The Holiday Obligation Bill of Rights

It's that time of year again. It's only the first week of December but the flames on your holiday stress fire have been getting hotter since mid November. I'm prone to seasonal affective disorder, which starts as soon as the time change happens and the clocks roll back an hour. Suddenly it's pitch black when … Continue reading The Holiday Obligation Bill of Rights

A Choose-Your-Adventure 30 Day Self-Care Challenge

When I usually think of self-care, I think of weekend getaways (which I adore), mani-pedis (of which I have only had one in my entire life), and yoga classes (which are great, but spendy). But I also think of my evening baths "when I make the time" and my morning cup of coffee. Self-care doesn't … Continue reading A Choose-Your-Adventure 30 Day Self-Care Challenge

Taking Back My Life

Growing up, I was fat shamed. I routinely heard such sayings as "Okay, it's YOUR body" (when I asked for a sugary snack), "How will you get a boyfriend when you eat like a pig?" "I'm going to put a voice recorder in your pocket on your first date to see if you burp; that’s disgusting," … Continue reading Taking Back My Life