You can’t expect someone else to do the work that’s in your own mind. Of course, you can get help from a therapist or a friend or a coach to help you process, but doing the work is on you. All the therapy in the world won't help you if you don't actually dig in and get uncomfortable and vulnerable to do the processing. The flip side is that other people’s emotional processing is THEIR job. You can’t do it for them.
Estrangement is a final boundary that many adult children choose to enforce with their parents after a lifetime of not being heard, valued, or respected. It's not a decision that people make lightly or easily — indeed, there are countless barriers to estrangement that come from a societal belief that family is an immutable, infallible bond that can't be broken or ignored. There is no morality in estrangement. Those who can cut off their parents aren't better people with better boundaries. Those who continue a relationship with parents who abused them aren't broken or codependent or foolish for wanting to keep their parents in their life.
Photo by Randalyn Hill on Unsplash I wanted you to make sure you heard: Enrollment for my creative mentorship program Passion Pacers is OPEN! Passion Pacers is a monthly online community of creatives and dreamers prioritizing their deep-down dreams and balancing their creative work with the rest of their busy lives. Does this sound like … Continue reading Work on Your Passion Project at Your Pace
Photo by Nataliya Vaitkevich from Pexels Do you run your car down to empty before you fill it up, or wait until your phone is in the single digits of battery percentage before you charge it? You're probably doing the same to yourself.I've always been the type to give 110% and not take breaks... Until I burned out … Continue reading FREE Webinar: How to Create Goals without Burnout
We've had a rough year, y'all. Many of us have had a rough several years. Some of us have been doing the "Just one more hectic week and then things will calm down" since high school. It's just part of life...right? WRONG. We've all been struggling, especially as the pandemic continues and the new normal … Continue reading PODCAST: Run Like Hell Toward Happy helps you achieve your deep-down dream without burnout
Photo by Jen Theodore on Unsplash Are you someone who struggles to cut through all the noise in your mind to find what you really need from your inner voice and intuition? It's not uncommon, especially for people with a history of trauma who have become hypervigilant to others' emotional cues. In trauma, we learned … Continue reading How to Hear Your Inner Voice
Photo by Allan Bueno on Unsplash I haven't felt like myself lately. I used to always be there for everyone around me with a pep talk for every situation. I listened to people's problems, authentically gave them an ear, and told them that it was okay to not be okay -- but that they were … Continue reading When You Don’t Feel Like Yourself
As COVID-19 continues to impact the lives of millions around the world, Americans are being urged to stay home and practice social distancing to help slow the spread. That means that numerous non-essential businesses have closed, non-essential events canceled, and people are limiting their interactions with one another. While all of this is for the … Continue reading 5 Tips To Overcome Loneliness While Social Distancing
Finding the right balance between work, rest, and play can be difficult to master. While success at work is important, so is your mental and physical health. Here are some tips to help you maximize your personal time so you can be your best self in and out of the workplace.
Cooking can be both meditative and calming for the mind. Creating a meal gives you something to contemplate and focus on, and preparing food can be meditative. Plus, when making a meal, you’re creating nourishment and fuel for your body to move through the day. Everything from an increased sense of calm, developed focus, to … Continue reading 8 Ways Cooking is a Form of Self Care