It’s 2023! We should have MORE time than prior generations to do the things that make us feel fulfilled and joyous, not LESS. Enter capitalism, here to pay less than a living wage and ruin your day by pressuring you to monetize every minute of your life and every hobby you have. Human beings are … Continue reading Do You Treat Creativity Like a Guilty Pleasure?
Sometimes, in the middle of a wonderful day, or a beautiful swell of joy and happiness... I start to feel bad. Guilty. Like I'm doing something wrong. Other people in the world are living through terrible things. My own safety isn't guaranteed. But overall, I'm honestly quite happy. And then the guilt sets in. I … Continue reading Art Matters. Right Now.
Short answer: Yes, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. Think about airplane safety, and how they tell you to put on your own oxygen mask before helping others with theirs. Even your kids! You need to put on your mask before you help your kids put on their masks. Does this mean you are … Continue reading Does Prioritizing Yourself Mean De-Prioritizing Others?
This is a love letter to the saviors, the fixers, the let-me-handle-that-ers, the chronic "yes" people... the people pleasers. I bet you're exhausted. I know I was. The other day, a client of mine (also my bestie, so we talk about a lot of things besides work) sent me a screenshot of their calendar showing … Continue reading For the People Pleasers who Compulsively Fix People’s Problems
Deep down, you know there’s something inside your spirit that wants to come out! An idea for a book or art project. A business you want to start, or a career change to something that makes you feel great about showing up to do your life’s work. You want to live out your big, loud, … Continue reading Achieve Your Dreams without Burnout: Free eBook
The moon has a recurring cycle of phases, which happen as the moon orbits Earth and result in an astonishing display of light and dark that we call the lunar cycle. The new moon is completely dark, and then over the next four weeks it will wax, become fully illuminated, and wane until it's dark … Continue reading Setting Your Goals with The Moon’s Phases
We all have an inner child, the part of us that is still connected to our childhood, upbringing, and the things we learned in our most formative years. Unfortunately, when we were wounded in childhood, those pains and patterns often come with us and repeat throughout our adult life, affecting relationships, work, and even our … Continue reading Healing Your Inner Child: The Basics
Everyone knows that goal setting is important, but most people have a hard time making the changes they want in their lives or businesses! Sometimes it just feels easier to stick with what we know. Why? Because the process of goal setting and achieving your goals can be overwhelming, and society is practically begging us … Continue reading 4 Goal Setting Rules to Break
You can’t expect someone else to do the work that’s in your own mind. Of course, you can get help from a therapist or a friend or a coach to help you process, but doing the work is on you. All the therapy in the world won't help you if you don't actually dig in and get uncomfortable and vulnerable to do the processing. The flip side is that other people’s emotional processing is THEIR job. You can’t do it for them.
Estrangement is a final boundary that many adult children choose to enforce with their parents after a lifetime of not being heard, valued, or respected. It's not a decision that people make lightly or easily — indeed, there are countless barriers to estrangement that come from a societal belief that family is an immutable, infallible bond that can't be broken or ignored. There is no morality in estrangement. Those who can cut off their parents aren't better people with better boundaries. Those who continue a relationship with parents who abused them aren't broken or codependent or foolish for wanting to keep their parents in their life.