You can’t expect someone else to do the work that’s in your own mind. Of course, you can get help from a therapist or a friend or a coach to help you process, but doing the work is on you. All the therapy in the world won't help you if you don't actually dig in and get uncomfortable and vulnerable to do the processing. The flip side is that other people’s emotional processing is THEIR job. You can’t do it for them.
Imagine if everyone found a tiny bit of peace for themselves and then sent it onward.
When I turned 25, I made a five year plan. Become debt free and a mother by 30, in April 2018. I am now 31 and neither of those things happened. In fact, as 30 approached, I was facing a lot of other huge life circumstances. In August 2016 I got married and immediately started … Continue reading There’s no timeline on healing or love
Winter seemed to hold on for a long time this year, with snow in March and even a few cold days into late April. Now that it's early May, it seems we've skipped right over springtime into 80+ degree days and the nostalgic smell of summer vacation on the breeze. I've been driving with the … Continue reading The nature of healing