A heart made of red rope hanging on a tree branch. The rope signifies the thread of patterns repeated in relationships and breakups.

How Fast Should You Move On from a Breakup?

As a creative coach, I of course focus on my clients' creative passions, but we coach on all kinds of topics including relationships, boundaries, and breakups. The simple answer to this question is anything but simple: It's different for every person and every breakup. You might need more time than a person who went through … Continue reading How Fast Should You Move On from a Breakup?

Black and white photo of Caitlin facing the camera holding a bouquet of fake flowers, with other flowers at their feet. Caitlin's face is serious and thoughtful for this blog about traumaversary.

5 Things To Do For Your Traumaversary

As we go through our lives after a traumatic event, we may feel like we're over it on the surface, but our body remembers the stress and may repeat it. This can be triggered by the time of year, specific smells, triggering circumstances that remind you of the trauma, and more. This post is about … Continue reading 5 Things To Do For Your Traumaversary

Hands holding an arrangement of colorful flowers in a heart shape to inspire you to ask for love

How to Ask for Love (and Receive It)

Love is one of the most important things in life. It can also be one of the most difficult things to feel safe asking for, because it requires so much vulnerability and risks rejection. Throughout my life, I've had to really figure out how to ask for love and hold my standards and boundaries, rather … Continue reading How to Ask for Love (and Receive It)

What is Your Responsibility?

You can’t expect someone else to do the work that’s in your own mind. Of course, you can get help from a therapist or a friend or a coach to help you process, but doing the work is on you. All the therapy in the world won't help you if you don't actually dig in and get uncomfortable and vulnerable to do the processing. The flip side is that other people’s emotional processing is THEIR job. You can’t do it for them.

There’s no timeline on healing or love

When I turned 25, I made a five year plan. Become debt free and a mother by 30, in April 2018. I am now 31 and neither of those things happened. In fact, as 30 approached, I was facing a lot of other huge life circumstances. In August 2016 I got married and immediately started … Continue reading There’s no timeline on healing or love

The nature of healing

Winter seemed to hold on for a long time this year, with snow in March and even a few cold days into late April. Now that it's early May, it seems we've skipped right over springtime into 80+ degree days and the nostalgic smell of summer vacation on the breeze. I've been driving with the … Continue reading The nature of healing