Can emotional abuse be sexual abuse?

I got divorced last May, and in the midst of Justin Timberlake memes and shorts weather and anticipating my upcoming book launch, the anniversary of my divorce date looms near. And I am still mad at my abuser, which is frustrating because I thought I would have overcome all my trauma in a neat, tidy … Continue reading Can emotional abuse be sexual abuse?

The life changing magic of trauma

If you're familiar with Marie Kondo's The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up, you know that her method of simplifying requires you to get all of one type of item together (clothing, books, toiletries, papers, whatever), touch each and every one, and decide if it gives you joy before deciding whether or not to keep … Continue reading The life changing magic of trauma

An open letter to my abuser’s ex wife

Hello. I am not sure if you care to hear from me, or indeed if you even know who I am. I'm the woman your husband left you for. And I am deeply sorry, on so many levels. When I met him, he was in an open relationship with permission to play and "get his … Continue reading An open letter to my abuser’s ex wife

Breaking the silence of parental emotional abuse

Trigger Warning: Emotional abuse. Cancer. Loss.  May is tough for me. It's tough at work, because I have spent the last several years in marketing for a crib mattress company and a greenhouse. It's tough on social media, because all the ads and posts are about how to honor the woman who gave you everything. … Continue reading Breaking the silence of parental emotional abuse

The nature of healing

Winter seemed to hold on for a long time this year, with snow in March and even a few cold days into late April. Now that it's early May, it seems we've skipped right over springtime into 80+ degree days and the nostalgic smell of summer vacation on the breeze. I've been driving with the … Continue reading The nature of healing