Mental Health is a Critical Issue Nearly half (46.4%) of the American population will experience a mental illness throughout their lifetime. And only 41% of those people are receiving care for their mental health needs. I've written before about the need for access to affordable therapy, and the sobering statistics on mental health in the … Continue reading Understanding and Living with a Loved One Who Has Mental Illness
Practicing Boundaries After Trauma
Boundaries take practice, especially when you have a history of trauma. Being a survivor of abuse can make the inner alarm bells malfunction -- they either don't go off at all because mistreatment has been normalized, or they go off at the slightest whiff of something that reminds you of a past traumatic experience. This … Continue reading Practicing Boundaries After Trauma
Can emotional abuse be sexual abuse?
I got divorced last May, and in the midst of Justin Timberlake memes and shorts weather and anticipating my upcoming book launch, the anniversary of my divorce date looms near. And I am still mad at my abuser, which is frustrating because I thought I would have overcome all my trauma in a neat, tidy … Continue reading Can emotional abuse be sexual abuse?
I’m tired of being tired
I'm tired, y'all. I'm the type of person who will hold it when I need to use the restroom so that I can start a load of laundry in the washer and get my dirty dishes out of my lunchbox so that my time in the bathroom is not wasted. As if taking care of … Continue reading I’m tired of being tired
The life changing magic of trauma
If you're familiar with Marie Kondo's The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up, you know that her method of simplifying requires you to get all of one type of item together (clothing, books, toiletries, papers, whatever), touch each and every one, and decide if it gives you joy before deciding whether or not to keep … Continue reading The life changing magic of trauma
An open letter to my abuser’s ex wife
Hello. I am not sure if you care to hear from me, or indeed if you even know who I am. I'm the woman your husband left you for. And I am deeply sorry, on so many levels. When I met him, he was in an open relationship with permission to play and "get his … Continue reading An open letter to my abuser’s ex wife
Breaking the silence of parental emotional abuse
Trigger Warning: Emotional abuse. Cancer. Loss. May is tough for me. It's tough at work, because I have spent the last several years in marketing for a crib mattress company and a greenhouse. It's tough on social media, because all the ads and posts are about how to honor the woman who gave you everything. … Continue reading Breaking the silence of parental emotional abuse
The nature of healing
Winter seemed to hold on for a long time this year, with snow in March and even a few cold days into late April. Now that it's early May, it seems we've skipped right over springtime into 80+ degree days and the nostalgic smell of summer vacation on the breeze. I've been driving with the … Continue reading The nature of healing