You can’t expect someone else to do the work that’s in your own mind. Of course, you can get help from a therapist or a friend or a coach to help you process, but doing the work is on you. All the therapy in the world won't help you if you don't actually dig in and get uncomfortable and vulnerable to do the processing. The flip side is that other people’s emotional processing is THEIR job. You can’t do it for them.
Estrangement is a final boundary that many adult children choose to enforce with their parents after a lifetime of not being heard, valued, or respected. It's not a decision that people make lightly or easily — indeed, there are countless barriers to estrangement that come from a societal belief that family is an immutable, infallible bond that can't be broken or ignored. There is no morality in estrangement. Those who can cut off their parents aren't better people with better boundaries. Those who continue a relationship with parents who abused them aren't broken or codependent or foolish for wanting to keep their parents in their life.
Photo by Hybrid on Unsplash I went to sleep on election night 2016 confident that I would wake up to our country's first female president, and I awoke the next morning and felt ice in my stomach. Many of my friends said that they cried during election night and the morning after. I didn't cry, … Continue reading Celebrate Biden’s Win, But We Still Have Work to Do
Photo by John Cameron on Unsplash By the end of this blog, I want you to share it with at least one eligible student who you thought of while reading! Teen environmentalists have been making waves in recent years. Greta Thunberg, a 17-year-old Swedish environmentalist, address the UN Climate Change Conference in 2018 and inspired … Continue reading Young Environmentalists Are the Key to Addressing Climate Change
Thanks to James Eades for sharing their work on Unsplash. You may have noticed a distinct lack of blog posts around here for the last few weeks! I took June off to rest for my mental health and I’m looking forward to getting back to a regular writing schedule. It’s been hard to know what … Continue reading Doing the Work
I miss talking to you. I've been blogging on Medium, posting a few blogs here, writing a proposal for my second book, and working on an online course. But sometimes I miss the old days when I'd chat with people in the comments of my blogs and get to know my readers. So, to stay … Continue reading Get a Pep Talk Every Monday!
In September 2019, I started working with a professional coach to help me with my goal to write more consistently. I had an idea for a new book rolling around in my head and also wanted to be more consistent with blogging. Three months later, I was well into planning a workshop that I'll be … Continue reading Work with Me One on One in 2020
This post will explore 5 reasons you should dust off the ol' resume for the new year, even if you're not job searching.
It's the most wonderful time of the year... goal setting season. I love a good New Year's Resolution, and I also love shopping consciously. This blog post will outline a few products you can feel better about using compared to their traditional high-waste counterparts. Personal Care Akamai Basics offers a refreshing alternative to personal care … Continue reading Eco Friendly Products for Your New Year’s Resolutions
Life can be stressful. From careers to family and everything in between, just getting from day to day sometimes feels like chaos. Luckily, there are ways you can manage your stress levels. It’s important to take a critical look at the commitments and tasks on your to-do list and evaluate how these things can improve … Continue reading 3 Printable Mindfulness Exercises to Reduce Stress