Show Notes I see your bullet journal holding the weight of all your hopes and dreams, and I raise you a hustle-free INTENTION instead. It's time to stop acting like the right notebook is all that separates us from our dreams. Your productivity hacks won't work unless they actually meet your needs and fit the … Continue reading F*** Productivity Resolutions [Podcast]
Show Notes Only 9% of people sustain their New Years Resolutions throughout the year or achieve their New Year goals. Thus, New Years Resolutions are ACTUALLY A BAD WAY TO SET GOALS. In this essay, I will... In this five-part mini series I'm calling bullshit on the top New Years Resolutions and suggesting a better, … Continue reading F*** SMART Goal Resolutions [Podcast]
The curse of the blank page and the blinking cursor: every writer's worst nightmare! (Actually my worst nightmare is all my teeth fall out and the brakes go out in my car as I'm driving down a hill). Let's talk about writer's block and how to work through it. tip 1: Identify the Root Cause … Continue reading 5 Tips to Overcome Writer’s Block
On a very base level, I'm craving fried pickles. But deeper than that, I crave silence. You know that feeling when you pull the car into the garage and turn it off, but before you go inside? The silence of being alone for just a moment surrounds you like a thick presence in the air. … Continue reading Cravings
We keep going to work and buying groceries and living life while everything around us is wrong. It is so expensive to barely survive right now — prices and profits are soaring while wages stagnate. CEOs get stock options while workers' hours get cut. The government is full of people elected by rigged systems, gerrymandered, the … Continue reading Nothing is Normal
Many parents are thrilled when they learn their child is gifted. They may assume their child will sail through school and life with ease. However, there is a downside to being labeled gifted and talented — gifted kid burnout. Many gifted kids experience burnout, either during their school years or later in adulthood. They may … Continue reading What is Gifted Kid Burnout?
We'd like to think we're in a post-pandemic society, but COVID-19 continues to spread, infect, and harm people every single day. The general consensus of the US government seems to be that the show must go on, and even companies that have held out for two years have decided it's time to come back to … Continue reading How to Go Back to the Office During a Pandemic
I recently had a Facebook memory pop up, an image from a vacation in January 2016. In the photo, my puffy, red eyes betrayed that I'd been up all night crying, despite a chipper caption about my breakfast shake and a smiling emoji. January 13, 2016 The night before, my partner had painstakingly pulled a … Continue reading To Those Who Aren’t Ready to Leave
You can’t expect someone else to do the work that’s in your own mind. Of course, you can get help from a therapist or a friend or a coach to help you process, but doing the work is on you. All the therapy in the world won't help you if you don't actually dig in and get uncomfortable and vulnerable to do the processing. The flip side is that other people’s emotional processing is THEIR job. You can’t do it for them.
Estrangement is a final boundary that many adult children choose to enforce with their parents after a lifetime of not being heard, valued, or respected. It's not a decision that people make lightly or easily — indeed, there are countless barriers to estrangement that come from a societal belief that family is an immutable, infallible bond that can't be broken or ignored. There is no morality in estrangement. Those who can cut off their parents aren't better people with better boundaries. Those who continue a relationship with parents who abused them aren't broken or codependent or foolish for wanting to keep their parents in their life.