Caitlin is doubled over, laughing and smiling at the camera. Their fat rolls are visible under their black tank top and red plaid pants.

Things my thin mother couldn’t teach me about my fat body

I can't remember when I became fat. I know from photographs that I was an average sized baby, toddler, and child. Somewhere between my parents' divorce, when I was around seven, and puberty, I became fat. Being fat, in my experience, was a bad thing. My mom hated buying me new clothes and was visibly … Continue reading Things my thin mother couldn’t teach me about my fat body

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When It Doesn’t Happen As Planned

I recently completed an art project I've been contemplating for months and working on for weeks. It started when we bought this house a year ago. I wanted a rad background for my Zoom calls, so we painted the office purple and installed a shelf, and my friend offered me a giant framed canvas they … Continue reading When It Doesn’t Happen As Planned

What Do We Owe Our Facebook Friends?

I have a hard time with boundaries, rejection, and balancing my desire to be liked with my desire to be myself. When I notice that I'm censoring, editing, and polishing a post to perfection — a post for my friends to read, no less — it's a surefire sign that I'm putting too much energy into being … Continue reading What Do We Owe Our Facebook Friends?

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Nothing is Normal

We keep going to work and buying groceries and living life while everything around us is wrong. It is so expensive to barely survive right now — prices and profits are soaring while wages stagnate. CEOs get stock options while workers' hours get cut. The government is full of people elected by rigged systems, gerrymandered, the … Continue reading Nothing is Normal

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The Burnout Conundrum of Ethical Shopping

This story is about hair, but it's also about capitalism, and it's also also about burnout. I'm growing my hair out from a mostly-shaved head to pixie cut length, and eventually to some type of queer-coded asymmetrical bob with an undercut. But the growing out stage is awful. If you know, you know. My partner … Continue reading The Burnout Conundrum of Ethical Shopping

Does Prioritizing Yourself Mean De-Prioritizing Others?

Short answer: Yes, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. Think about airplane safety, and how they tell you to put on your own oxygen mask before helping others with theirs. Even your kids! You need to put on your mask before you help your kids put on their masks. Does this mean you are … Continue reading Does Prioritizing Yourself Mean De-Prioritizing Others?

For the People Pleasers who Compulsively Fix People’s Problems

This is a love letter to the saviors, the fixers, the let-me-handle-that-ers, the chronic "yes" people... the people pleasers. I bet you're exhausted. I know I was. The other day, a client of mine (also my bestie, so we talk about a lot of things besides work) sent me a screenshot of their calendar showing … Continue reading For the People Pleasers who Compulsively Fix People’s Problems

Happy Birthday to “The Gaslighting of the Millennial Generation”

On May 19, 2019, my first book was published: The Gaslighting of the Millennial Generation. As of now, it’s my only published book, but that’ll change soon. In any case, this book is hugely important to me — and the people who read it and felt seen and heard and validated in their own experience … Continue reading Happy Birthday to “The Gaslighting of the Millennial Generation”

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Achieve Your Dreams without Burnout: Free eBook

Deep down, you know there’s something inside your spirit that wants to come out! An idea for a book or art project. A business you want to start, or a career change to something that makes you feel great about showing up to do your life’s work. You want to live out your big, loud, … Continue reading Achieve Your Dreams without Burnout: Free eBook