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4 Annoying Truths about Breakups

I realized last night that I haven't had to defend myself from inappropriate blame for over two and a half years. Coming off a four day vacation during which I actually rested and had fun, it occurred to me that I am really and truly not the person I used to be. Vacation time used … Continue reading 4 Annoying Truths about Breakups

If I had a nickel for every time I manifested a desk…

I would have two nickels. Which isn't a lot, but it's cool that it happened twice. I've been looking for a desk. Not just any desk, but a small, basic desk or table that I can use for painting, separate from my computer desk. I like designated spaces. Bonus points for a desk with an … Continue reading If I had a nickel for every time I manifested a desk…

For the parents healing generational wounds

I used to be so fucking judgmental about parenting. I was SURE that I'd be the best parent ever. (Pause for laughter to subside). Now, I'm a lot more knowledgeable, a lot less judgy, and have a LOT more grace for parents doing the hardest work in the world with little to no thanks, and … Continue reading For the parents healing generational wounds

Three Life Lessons from Lizzo

I love Lizzo. I have painted one human portrait in my entire life, and it was of Lizzo. Lizzo helps me feel good about my body. Her music inspires me to sing and dance. I admire her deeply, more and more every time I find out something new about her. Life Lesson One: All Bodies … Continue reading Three Life Lessons from Lizzo

The magic of surrender, and unclenching your ass

I am really, really good with money. I have paid off lots of debt, negotiated amazing raises and job offers, and succeeded as a freelancer and self-employed coach for the past two years. I am a wizard at budgeting and have helped friends go from zero to five figures in their savings accounts. And this … Continue reading The magic of surrender, and unclenching your ass

Conflict is Trust: Positive Conflict Resolution

Ever since I was a kid, I have been conflict-avoidant. Conflict didn't feel safe, because my emotions were unwelcome and my boundaries were nonexistent. I never saw my parents modeling conflict in a healthy way, and I learned to keep my mood neutral to positive and to avoid adults when they were angry. This is … Continue reading Conflict is Trust: Positive Conflict Resolution

Caitlin is doubled over, laughing and smiling at the camera. Their fat rolls are visible under their black tank top and red plaid pants.

Things my thin mother couldn’t teach me about my fat body

I can't remember when I became fat. I know from photographs that I was an average sized baby, toddler, and child. Somewhere between my parents' divorce, when I was around seven, and puberty, I became fat. Being fat, in my experience, was a bad thing. My mom hated buying me new clothes and was visibly … Continue reading Things my thin mother couldn’t teach me about my fat body

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When It Doesn’t Happen As Planned

I recently completed an art project I've been contemplating for months and working on for weeks. It started when we bought this house a year ago. I wanted a rad background for my Zoom calls, so we painted the office purple and installed a shelf, and my friend offered me a giant framed canvas they … Continue reading When It Doesn’t Happen As Planned