A couple weeks ago I attended a queer geek convention in Cleveland in its second year – Flaming River Con. On a complete whim, I messaged the admins of the con on Facebook with a week to go before the event and offered to host a workshop on figuring out how to communicate your boundaries and love languages, especially when you’re also navigating past trauma. They said they were booked but would keep my information on backup in case of a cancellation. It was a long shot, but I would have regretted not asking.
With only a few days before the con, I happened to roll over to check my phone one last time before sleep, and found a message asking me to fill in for a panel that had to cancel. Suddenly wide awake, I wrote the outline of my presentation along with a quick bio about myself and sent it to the team that night.
I was only 80% nervous as my workshop approached but found that my 45 minute session went by quickly and I had an amazing time facilitating a discussion about boundaries, trauma, and asking for love in the ways that you need it from friends, partners, and more — in full crop top cosplay, no less.
The room was packed, to my delight and surprise. I had underestimated that people want to learn that it’s okay to say no, to ask for love in different ways, and to establish boundaries.
I realized I could do this.
I could teach this.
I had learned it myself and I can show others how to do it too.
I’m launching a six week online course to do just that: Teach you how to ask for the love you deserve.
Check out the full details on the course page, but here’s a sneak peek of what the course includes (for a one-time membership fee of $199):
- A private Facebook group to chat with course members (and me!)
- Weekly video lessons and guided exercises
- Weekly video chats with the whole group
- A template to create your own “how to love me” manual
We start class on Monday October 28 and I’m capping the course at the first 20 members, so sign up fast to reserve your spot! If you miss this round I’ll send you a personal invitation to the next time the course opens (in January to make Love and Boundaries a new years resolution you can stick to).
Since the workshop, I’ve gotten feedback from attendees about what they liked from the discussion:
The talk about love languages was key.
Learning about love languages, especially the way people can give and receive them differently.
I loved the talk about love languages and how giving and receiving love can be in different languages. Also the pep talks; I’ve read mine almost every day.
Join me in learning how to ask for love the way you need it — you deserve it.
Sign up for the Course to reserve your spot now!
Caitlin Liz Fisher 